Finding Love in Sobriety – Or Not

addiction recovery

So, I did it.
I decided to date.
I am dating.
Or, let me rephrase that…The idea of dating doesn’t currently repulse me and I’ve been on exactly five dates with two different men over the last two months. No, I didn’t date them both at the same time, and no, I haven’t (and won’t) have sex with anyone until (and if) I get married again, so let me go over the highlights of the past 8 weeks for you.
Why?
Because I believe that what I’m writing will help women in recovery navigate their way around the world of dating while keeping their sobriety (as well as their self esteem) in check. I also believe what I’m writing might offer some help to single women in any situation, recovery or no recovery. Read More

And Then One Day….Healing Happened

I haven’t dated anyone in two years.

Wait…before you pass over that sentence as if it’s not a big deal, let me explain. Over the course of my adult life, my sole quest was to find the person I could paint my story with. The country music song.
You know…supper on the stove, cool evenings spent telling stories on the back porch, and the laughter of my children running through the sprinkler. I desperately wanted that life —and that life included a man coming home at the end of the day. Read More

Either Every Life Matters or No Lives Matter

Narcan, also known as Naloxone, or the heroin overdose antidote, is coming to Florida’s drug stores. I’m over-the-moon excited for this.
Of course, for me it’s not a surprise, I’ve known this since March 28th of this year when the law was passed.
It was a grateful day for me.

Naloxone is a drug that is basically used like a person would use an EpiPen during a life threatening allergic reaction. It is used to save a life….a life that has just overdosed on opiates, and is near death.

Opiate Overdose Quick Mini-Education

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Beyond the Struggle

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I’ve been clicking around this site for weeks, wondering how I could contribute.

The browsing became a prayer of sorts. And each time I clicked that upper left corner: “That Sober Life / Beyond the Struggle” I was brought home.
One afternoon, when I should have been doing a thousand other things, it all hit me. Read More

The Root of Addiction: Lost in a Longing Hole

spiritual malady

“Mama once told me, you’re already home where you feel loved.” —The Head & the Heart

I remember the first time I identified a deep inner longing. I was standing in a Christian bookstore somewhere in Michigan. I don’t even remember what city I was in. I had recently become a believer and there I was, just standing there. I didn’t want to leave, and yet I didn’t really know what I was looking for.

I just liked the feeling of being there.
So I stood there for a very long time. Read More

Parents In Recovery: Making Things Right With Your Children

parents in recovery

Over 8.3 million children, nearly 12 percent of all children in the United States, live with a person in active addiction.

I’ve sat here at my computer staring at that statistic for hours.
I’ve thought of people I know, things I can’t unsee, and the pain of a close friend of mine who has wrestled with the frustration of forgiving her own father for years. Read More